So how can a parent love and care for their children without inhibiting their ability to learn important life skills? Dr. Gilboa offers this advice: "As parents, we have a very difficult job. We need to keep one eye on our children now--their stressors, strengths, emotions--and one eye on the adults we are trying to raise. Getting them from here to there involves some suffering, for our kids as well as for us." In practical terms, this means letting children struggle, allowing them to be disappointed, and when failure occurs, helping them to work through it. It means letting your children do tasks that they are physically and mentally capable of doing. Making your 3-year-old's bed isn't hovering. Making your 13-year-old's bed is. As Dr. Gilboa says, "Remembering to look for opportunities to take one step back from solving our child's problems will help us build the reliant, self-confident kids we need."
A couple people told me their parents were negligent/abusive, causing them to have peeing accidents, or forcing them to hold or to pee outside in public, but it was not really for a fetish point. One woman told me she sometimes played holdin it games with her mother or trying to make her mother wet by making her laugh, but they were both adult (30 and 50) at the time and it seemed rather recent games, based on the fact that both have sensible bladders and thought it was a way to help them deal with their frequent wettings. A girl have recounted on a forum her peeing stories with one of her sister, another with her female cousin, mostly based on exhibitionism (staged "accidents" and peeing games with their female friends). Of course, it was only MSN chat sessions, so all these stories can be fake stuff.